I just resigned, manager is making it awkward. What should I do?

Hi! I submitted my two-weeks notice last week. I have had more than four managers change in the last four years I have been at the company. The latest manager has been the biggest pain for me. He has been behind me since the beginning and passing comments like if you don’t like your manager, quit. He demoted me, made sure I didn’t getting any raise last year and I went from being the top performer to basically needs improvement. But they didn’t lay me off because they still needed me somehow. I am sure he was building the case again for this year and several instances like documenting,etc. was happening in the last couple of months.

Basically, whatever I do, it’s not helping my case with him. He found fault in everything I did. So I started looking and got an offer. I told him I am leaving and he genuinely thought he drove me out and was super happy and proud of it. But when I told him I found another opportunity, he sort of became the person he is, which is rude, condescending, insecure, and jealous.

Anyway, he said he will reach out to all the people I work with to let them know I am leaving. He didn’t reach out for almost 5 days and he is going on vacation. He sent an email to only 4 people out of the many I mentioned to let them know I am leaving and didn’t tell anyone else. He also didn’t include me and someone reached out telling me that how weird it was.

I am looking for advice to see if I should reach out to everyone separately? I was thinking of sending an email to everyone and letting them know I am leaving but should I mention that “my manager must have told you I am leaving “ to pretend he did what he said or just keep it simple and thank them without mentioning manager. I don’t want to burn the bridge as this manager may leave or someone may want to hire me in the future.

What do you think you would have done in my place?

Jobadvisor

Keep it simple and don't mention him at all. Send a brief, warm email to everyone you worked with — thank them, mention your last day, offer to help with handoff, and share your personal contact info (LinkedIn or personal email) if you'd like to stay in touch. No reference to who has or hasn't been notified.

Reasoning:

• Mentioning "my manager must have told you" is a passive-aggressive jab dressed as politeness, and people will read it that way. It draws attention to the dysfunction rather than letting your own message do the work.
• You don't need his announcement as cover or permission to say goodbye to your own colleagues. It's completely normal for departing employees to send their own notes.
• Your goal is for the last impression of you to be the gracious, professional one — not someone weighing in on internal manager drama on the way out.

For your remaining time, keep interactions with him minimal and professional, document anything important in writing, and focus on a clean handoff. The pettiness of his behavior here says everything about him and nothing about you — no need to add commentary.

Im 17 and have no life plan..What should I do?

Hello! I am 17 (18 in feb), and I am starting to look into scholarships and college. I would love to travel the world and learn about the cultures and languages around it. I would also love to do culinary school. However, I can’t find a plan that implements both things. For example, I could go to college for anthropology and modern/foreign languages but then how would i study culinary and vice versa. My eyes are set on Ut Austin (they don’t offer a culinary major) and I want to study abroad as well. Please help me!

Jobadvisor

A few ways people actually combine these:

Anthropology/languages degree + culinary later: Get your UT Austin degree, study abroad during it (great for languages/anthropology), then do a shorter culinary program after — many culinary schools (like CIA or local programs) are 1-2 years, not four. You'd graduate college, travel, then add culinary training as a focused second step.

Culinary first, then college: Some people do a culinary certificate (often 6 months-2 years) right after high school, work briefly, then go to college for anthropology/languages with more clarity and even funding from working.

Hospitality/food studies majors: Some universities offer Hospitality Management, Food Studies, or Gastronomy programs that blend food, culture, and business — sometimes with study abroad built in. Worth checking if UT Austin or other schools on your list have anything like this.

Culinary tourism as a career path: Food writer, culinary tour guide, chef who works internationally, food anthropologist — these careers literally combine travel, language, culture, and food. You don't need one degree to "cover" all of it; the career can be the synthesis.

Practical next step: Since you're not committed yet, consider applying to UT Austin for anthropology/languages with a study abroad plan, and treat culinary school as a "phase two" — either during gap semesters, summers (some culinary schools offer short intensives), or right after graduation. You don't have to pick the whole path now, just the next step.

One thing worth remembering: at 17, "no life plan" is completely normal — most people figure this out by trying things, not by planning it perfectly in advance.

18F — I have to decide by the end of this week whether to take a college tennis scholarship or try to go pro? I’m completely torn.

Hey everyone,

I’m Riley, 18, and I just graduated high school and this is my first reddit post. Tennis has been my entire life for the past 8 years. I’ve put in a lot of work — early mornings, traveling for tournaments, missing out on normal high school stuff — and it’s finally starting to pay off.

Right now I have two real options, and I need to make a decision by the end of this week.

Option 1: Accept a full-ride scholarship to play college tennis at a D1 school. I’d get to go to college, be part of a team, have the normal college experience, and still play at a high level. It feels like the safer, more stable path.

Option 2: Skip college and try to go pro. I’ve had some interest from smaller agents and my coach thinks I’m good enough to at least give it a real shot. But it’s scary. The travel, the money situation early on, being alone a lot, and the very real chance that it doesn’t work out.

I’ve been going back and forth on this for months. My mom really wants me to take the scholarship for the education and stability. My dad thinks I should chase the pro dream while I’m young and have the chance. My coach says both paths are realistic.

I’ve been losing sleep over it. I don’t want to look back in a few years and regret not at least trying to go pro… but I also don’t want to throw away a free education and the college experience if it doesn’t work out.

I’m genuinely stuck and running out of time. Has anyone here been in a similar position — having to choose between a “safe” path with security versus chasing a big dream with a lot of risk? Or does anyone know anything about college tennis vs trying to go pro that I should be thinking about?

Any honest advice or perspectives would really help right now. Thanks for reading.

— Riley

Jobadvisor

Hey Riley, first off, congratulations. Take a second to actually breathe and realize how incredible this is. Having a D1 full-ride on the table while simultaneously being good enough that pro agents are sniffing around means you are in the top one percent of one percent of tennis players your age. You’ve earned this moment, even if it feels terrifying right now.

Here is the truth that might help you sleep a little better tonight: Choosing college is no longer a death sentence for a pro career.

The landscape of tennis has changed dramatically. The choice isn't "Give up your dream for safety" vs. "Risk it all for greatness." The choice is actually about where you want to develop over the next two to three years.

Let’s break down the realities of both paths so you can make this choice by Friday with your eyes wide open.

Option 1: The Pro Circuit (The Immediate Leap)

Going pro straight out of high school is an absolute grind. If you choose this path, you need to be prepared for the realities of the ITF World Tennis Tour (the entry-level pro circuit).

• The Financial Reality: Unless you have a major corporate sponsor paying for your travel, coaching, and physios, the early years of the pro tour are a massive financial drain. Players ranked between 300 and 1,000 in the world routinely lose tens of thousands of dollars a year traveling to small tournaments, making next to nothing in prize money.

• The Mental Toll: You go from being the star of your junior circuit to playing in isolated, low-tier tournaments, often traveling alone, staying in cheap hotels, and facing brutal competition every single round. It is a lonely lifestyle that burns out many young players before their game even peaks.

• The Window: If you go pro and realize after 12 months that your body or mind can't take it, returning to play NCAA Division 1 tennis is incredibly difficult. The NCAA has strict eligibility audits regarding prize money and pro status that can turn into a compliance nightmare.

Option 2: The D1 College Route (The Launchpad)

Look at the top of the WTA and ATP tours right now. Players like Emma Navarro (University of Virginia) and Ben Shelton (University of Florida) didn't just play college tennis; they used it as a direct springboard to the top 20 in the world.

College tennis isn't where pro dreams go to die anymore—it’s where they get built.

• Elite, Free Infrastructure: At a top D1 school, you get world-class coaching, strength trainers, physios, free gear, and nutritionists—all covered by your scholarship. On the pro tour, that infrastructure costs over $70,000 a year out of your own pocket.

• The NIL & Prize Money Shift: Thanks to Name, Image, and Likeness (NIL) rules, college athletes can now make money. While there is still ongoing legal friction regarding how much tournament prize money a college player can keep, you can absolutely build a brand, sign local sponsorships, and build a financial cushion while keeping your free education.

• Match Play & Maturity: Junior tennis doesn't fully prepare you for the physical strength of adult pros. Two years of playing #1 or #2 singles in D1 will harden your game, mature your body, and teach you how to win under intense pressure.

• The "Two-Year" Exit: You do not have to stay for four years. You can accept the scholarship, play for a year or two, and if you are completely dominating the college circuit (like Shelton or Peyton Stearns did), you can turn pro at 19 or 20 with a massive safety net and a much higher Universal Tennis Rating (UTR).

The Verdict: How to Decide by Friday

Talk to your coach and look at your current level objectively.

The Litmus Test: Are you consistently winning high-level ITF junior events or holding a UTR that already competes with women inside the WTA Top 400?

If the answer is no, going straight pro right now means scraping by in the lowest-level qualifiers. Going to college will give you the physical development to bridge that gap for free.

If your heart is absolutely screaming that you will regret not being on the pro tour next Monday, then chase it. But if you are torn because you want the training, the team, and a safety net while still keeping the pro dream alive, take the D1 scholarship. You can always leave college to go pro, but it is much harder to leave the pros to go to college.

Good luck this week, Riley. Trust your gut—either way, you're a champion.

Can I quit my job or just walk out without saying anything?

So I work part time as a cook at a very busy restaurant and I’m in university too.

I hate my job, I work 10 hours each shift and no breaks and the managers are so disorganized I don’t even know who to talk to. Even if I do talk to them they are just so difficult to communicate with, and just come off so passive aggressive.

I am currently at work in the bathroom can I just leave and walk out or just never show up for my next shift and block my managers without saying anything?

Jobadvisor

I hear you, and honestly, hiding out in the bathroom trying to figure out how to escape a toxic, break-less 10-hour shift is a universal sign of reaching your absolute limit. Working food service while juggling university is hard enough without dealing with passive-aggressive, disorganized management.

The short answer: Yes, you physically can just walk out or ghost them. You aren't a hostage.

However, before you make your grand exit from the bathroom, let’s weigh the "right now" satisfaction against the potential "tomorrow" headaches so you can choose the best exit strategy.

Option 1: The "Ghost" (Walking out right now)

You just walk out the door, block the numbers, and never look back.

• The Pros: Instant, overwhelming relief. You get your day back, and you send a silent, chaotic message to a management team that clearly doesn't respect your time or labor.

• The Cons:

  • It might delay getting your final paycheck (they still legally have to pay you for hours worked, but disorganized places will often drag their feet or make you come in to pick up a physical check).

  • If you have personal belongings there, you'll have to forfeit them or face an awkward interaction later.

  • You absolutely burning this bridge. You can never use them as a reference, and if it's a small town or tight-knit local industry, word can travel.

Option 2: The "Text and Split" (Highly Recommended)

If you cannot stomach finishing this shift, this is the safer alternative to just disappearing. You leave, but you leave a paper trail.

• The Move: Walk out of the bathroom, grab your stuff, walk out the door, and the second you are outside, send a group text to the managers (or email, or whoever scheduled you).

• What to text: "Hi team, effectively immediately, I am resigning from my position as a cook. Due to the schedule demands and my university workload, I am unable to finish my shift today or work future shifts. Please send my final paycheck to [your address] or direct deposit it." Then, block them.

Why this is better: You still get to escape immediately, but you have legally protected yourself. You clearly stated you resigned and requested your pay, which makes it much harder for them to claim you "abandoned" the job or try to withhold your money.

Option 3: Finish the Shift, Quit via Text Tonight

You grit your teeth, survive the rest of the day, and then text them tonight saying you aren't coming back.

• The Pros: You get paid for today, you leave with your head held high, and they can't accuse you of leaving them in a lurch mid-rush.

• The Cons: You have to endure more hours of a job you absolutely despise.

A Quick Reality Check on "Two Weeks' Notice"

Standard employment laws in most places (like "at-will" employment in the US) mean you can quit at any time for any reason, just like they can fire you at any time. Two weeks' notice is a courtesy, not a law. They haven't given you the courtesy of legally mandated breaks or decent communication, so you do not owe them a formal notice period.

Your Best Next Step

If you are at a breaking point and your mental health is plummeting, use Option 2. Go get your bags, walk out into the fresh air, send that text, and go focus on your university exams. No part-time restaurant job is worth your sanity.

Are you dependent on this specific paycheck to cover immediate bills, or do you have enough of a cushion to walk away risk-free right now?

Passed up for promotion, should I stay?

I have worked as a manager for a start up for almost 3 years, with 9 years total experience in my field. I’ve built policies and procedures, know our system better than anyone, hold trainings, etc and manage a team of 6 people, adding 1-3 people a year so far. At my year end review, I received all positive feedback, and I mentioned my short term goals etc of wanting to move up in the company, build a bigger team etc.Everything was great until my boss told me last week that the position I was on track for (which he confirmed during my YE review, I was on track) will have someone else from outside the company fill it. They start this week. I am literally sick over this - I’ve spent so much time dedicated to proving myself just for this to happen. My boss said to me he didn’t “know I wanted a promotion” and I don’t ask “for new stuff to do.” Mind you - My company has grown exponentially and I’m just keeping me and my whole team afloat… it’s impossible to ask for more work when I’m already doing 55+ a week.

I want to quit, but it’s work from home and the benefits are great. But I don’t think I can get over this. What would you all do? Thanks!

Jobadvisor

Stay only while you job-search; don't quit impulsively.

Key points: your boss's "I didn't know you wanted it" / "you don't ask for new stuff" comments — despite confirming you were on track at your review — is a sign of either poor management, a pretext, or both. That contradiction matters more than the promotion itself.

What to do now:

• Have a direct follow-up conversation with your boss/HR. Ask specifically what skills, scope, or visibility the external hire has that you don't, and get a concrete timeline/criteria for the next opportunity in writing.
• Don't make any big decisions while you're this upset. Give yourself a week or two to cool down before deciding to quit.
• Start quietly job-searching regardless of the outcome of that conversation. Being passed over after being told you were "on track" is a real trust breach, and remote work/benefits won't fix the resentment that's likely to build.
• If you stay, recalibrate your effort to match your actual title/pay — 55+ hours for an "individual contributor" wage isn't sustainable or fair, and continuing to over-function may just confirm to leadership that they don't need to promote you.
• Use the new hire's arrival as information: how leadership treats you, integrates them, and whether your stated goals get addressed in the next 30-60 days will tell you a lot about whether this is a place you can grow.

Bottom line: don't quit in anger, but don't stay loyal out of guilt either. Treat this as the moment to start building your exit option while giving the company one real chance to make this right.

How do I tell my boss “No thank you” without feeling guilty about disappointing him

Hey guys. M29, Long time lurker, first time poster.

Keeping it simple. I work in a warehouse. We have a position for a team leader that my manager is pushing me to take. The thing is, I have no interest in it.
I like what I’m doing currently, I like my tasks, helping others and teaching them new skills that I’ve learned etc. But I do not want to take on a new role with all the added expectations, responsibilities etc. Idk if that means I’m being lazy?

I *know* that I’m under no obligation to accept it, and that I shouldn’t feel bad. But part of me does and that part keeps me feeling debilitated of putting the nail in the coffin lol.

Any advice or suggestions, short of taking a cup of concrete would be greatly appreciated.

Jobadvisor

"Thanks for thinking of me — I'm flattered, but I'm genuinely happy where I am and want to keep focusing on what I'm doing now."

That's it. No over-explaining, no apologizing repeatedly. The guilt you're feeling isn't really about disappointing him — it's about going against the social script that says promotions = good, and turning one down = ungrateful or lazy. But wanting to stay in a role where you're already skilled, enjoy the work, and get to mentor others isn't laziness. It's knowing what you actually value, which a lot of people never figure out.

A few things that might help the guilt:

You can frame it as a positive rather than a rejection — "I want to keep doing the thing I'm good at and enjoy" is a statement about what you do want, not just what you don't.

If you want to soften it further, you can add something like "if that ever changes I'll let you know" — but only say this if it's true, don't say it just to manage his feelings.

Your manager will likely be a little disappointed for a moment and then move on. Managers deal with people turning down roles all the time; it's not the gut-punch it feels like from your side.

One conversation, said plainly, is kinder than dragging it out or saying yes and resenting it later — which would be worse for both of you.