I quit my OnlyFans manger job - what should I do now?
I accidentally became an OnlyFans creator manager in 2020. What started as a handful of creators who needed help turned into a successful start up business and I was making more and more money. It wasn’t my company but I just so happened to start there early. I learned how a company is built, adding departments as it grows, building SOPs and teaching new employees. I didn’t have time off, literally not even nights and weekends much less holidays.
After five years I quit. There were certainly a lot of problems, which is why I left. But I also became an expert at social media, marketing, and hitting numbers. I have a level of burnout I did not know what possible and I don’t know what to do next. It was just announced that there have been one million layoffs this year. How do I compete against those people? Yeah the guy you interviewed before me may have been an SVP at this very cool company you’ve heard of, but hire me instead: the girl who used to help people sell nudes.
I know I’m really good at managing a team, being responsible for 7 figs worth of money, analyzing stats and seeing what others don’t, and maintaining a brand. What would you do? Also what would you do if I told you all this in an interview?
Jobadvisor
First: take a breath. You didn’t “just help people sell nudes.” You helped scale a revenue engine in one of the most competitive and dynamic digital markets in existence. OnlyFans management is social media growth under constant algorithm shifts, high-volume content operations, client management, crisis response, sales psychology, and brand strategy. Those skills translate directly to mainstream industries—especially marketing, creator economy startups, talent management, DTC/e-commerce, SaaS, and agencies.
The hurdle is framing, not ability.
Step 1: Re-frame Your Experience
Stop describing your job as something accidental or trivial. Here’s a translation into corporate language:
| What You Did | How to Say It on a Resume |
|---|---|
| Managed creators and grew their revenue | Talent & Brand Growth Manager — grew portfolio creators from $X to $Y monthly recurring revenue |
| Built SOPs, trained staff | Built operational workflows and scaled team from X → Y employees |
| Oversaw 7-figure monthly revenue | Owned P&L and pipeline forecasting for $X annually |
| Social media strategy (TikTok/Twitter/Reddit) | Performance Marketing + Organic Social Growth |
| Constantly adjusting to trending formats | Rapid experimentation mindset / data-driven decision-making |
You weren’t “in adult content management”
You were in Creator Economy Ops + Performance Marketing.
That is wildly in-demand.
Step 2: Target the Right Roles
Your profile matches:
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Social Media Director / Growth Lead
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Influencer Marketing Manager
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Creator Partnerships Manager
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Content Strategy Lead
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Operations Manager in Creative/Marketing teams
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Project/Program Manager at media or tech startups
Bonus: Any startup that deals with creators, subscriptions, community, or UGC is going to love you.
Examples: Kajabi, Fanfix, Patreon, Shopify, Linktree, marketing agencies, e-commerce brands, beauty brands, feminine wellness brands, etc.
Step 3: Address the Elephant (Professionally)
If asked in an interview:
“My background is in the creator economy, where I built scalable operations and marketing strategies for high-volume subscription content brands. The platforms I worked in happened to include adult creators, so discretion, crisis management, and brand positioning were essential. What matters is the scale of the business impact and the systems we built.”
If they press beyond that, they’re not a company that respects skill or women. Move on.
Step 4: Burnout Is Real. Recover First.
You spent 5 years on-call. That’s startup C-level intensity.
You need:
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2–6 weeks of intentional rest with no job talk. This is not optional.
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Sleep, sunlight, hydration, routine, walking.
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Slow re-entry into career mode.
Burnout recovery isn’t lazy—it’s maintenance after a high-performance sprint.
Step 5: Your Story Is Actually an Asset
If you told me this in an interview, here’s what I would think:
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You operated in a ruthless market where attention = currency
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You scaled something from early stage to mature operation
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You dealt with difficult stakeholders daily
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You can handle chaos and ambiguity
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You understand the creator economy better than 95% of marketing hires
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You’re scrappy, resourceful, and not precious about work
Those are startup-gold traits.
I’d hire you before the SVP who hasn’t been hands-on in 10 years.
Your Immediate To-Dos
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Rewrite resume using corporate framing
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Create a short case study deck showing:
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Before & after numbers
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Growth strategies you implemented
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Team scaling and SOP creation
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Start networking with Creator Economy & Marketing LinkedIn circles
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Rest
I can help you with #1 & #2 if you want.
If you share:
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How many creators you managed
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Specific growth % results
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Size of the team you built/led
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Tech tools you used (CRM, scheduling, analytics, etc.)
I’ll rewrite your resume summary and give you 2–3 job descriptions you should apply to next.
You did not just leave an embarrassing job.
You left a high-impact, high-pressure, high-growth role in the fastest-evolving content economy of our era.
You’re not behind.
You’re early.
What do you do if you hate “working”? What do you do in life?
I truly hate “working”. What I mean is I hate the idea of having a job. Of having to be somewhere at a specific time for a certain amount of hours. To get a paycheck at the end of the week. It’s all so fake and gross to me.
I worked retail for a good number of years and became a manager and simply hated every second of it. I left and joined a pipe fitting trade. I got through 2 years and realized the money would never be worth it. I then pivoted to IT. And it was so hard just to earn my basic certs. I’m making decent money now and still hate every single second of it. I hate waking for work, I hate the commute. It even makes me hate my podcasts and music because I now associate them with the commute to work. I hate tech. I simply don’t care about it. I half assed my way into this field and don’t care for it at all. I’ve done 3 different careers paths and hated all of them. I just hate working. I just wanna smoke weed all day and garden.
I want a small farm or ranch or something. Just enough for me and my wife and kids. I wouldn’t hate that work because it actually means something to me.
Is this normal? I’m not depressed or anything. I just hate that I have to be a slave to the system.
Jobadvisor
It sounds like you're experiencing a very common feeling, though perhaps more intensely than some. The idea that "work" in the traditional sense feels "fake and gross" and like "slavery to the system" resonates with many people, especially those who find themselves in jobs that don't align with their passions or values. Your desire for a small farm or ranch, where your labor directly contributes to your family's well-being and aligns with something you genuinely care about, is a powerful indicator of what you truly seek.
Let's break down some aspects of what you're feeling and potential paths forward:
Understanding Your Discomfort with "Working":
Autonomy and Control: A major theme in what you're describing is a lack of autonomy. Having to be "somewhere at a specific time for a certain amount of hours," and the feeling of your time not truly being your own, can be incredibly stifling. In contrast, running a farm, while demanding, offers a high degree of autonomy and direct control over your environment and daily schedule.
Meaning and Purpose: You explicitly state that farm work "actually means something to me." This is a critical distinction. Many traditional jobs, especially those that feel disconnected from tangible outcomes or personal values, can feel meaningless. Your desire to smoke weed and garden all day isn't just about leisure; it's about engaging in activities that you find inherently rewarding and purposeful.
Intrinsic vs. Extrinsic Motivation: Your current jobs rely heavily on extrinsic motivation (the paycheck). While money is necessary, it's clearly not enough to make you enjoy the work itself. You're craving intrinsic motivation – the drive to do something because it's inherently satisfying, interesting, or meaningful to you.
Is This Normal?
Absolutely. While not everyone feels it to the same extreme, a significant portion of the workforce experiences dissatisfaction with their jobs. The concept of "the grind" and the desire for more meaningful work, or even just more free time, is a widespread sentiment. The push for things like early retirement (FIRE movement), remote work, and entrepreneurial ventures often stems from this desire for greater control and purpose.
What to Do in Life? Exploring Your Options:
Given your strong desire for a farm/ranch life and your deep-seated aversion to traditional employment, here are some ideas to consider:
The Gradual Transition to Your Dream:
Financial Planning is Key: A farm, even a small one, requires capital. Start aggressively saving and investing now, while you have a "decent money" IT job, even if you hate it. This is the means to an end.
Education and Skill Building: Use your evenings and weekends to learn about farming, permaculture, animal husbandry, etc. Volunteer at local farms, take workshops, read books. The more knowledgeable you become, the less daunting the transition will be.
Start Small: Can you begin gardening intensively at your current home? Raise chickens? Even small steps can build skills, confidence, and provide a taste of what you're working towards.
Research Locations: Look into areas with affordable land, good climate for your desired crops/animals, and a community that supports small-scale farming.
Rethinking Your Current Work/Life Balance:
Part-Time or Freelance: Could you transition your IT skills into a part-time or freelance capacity? This might reduce the "slavery" feeling, give you more control over your hours, and free up time for your farm-related pursuits, while still providing some income.
Remote Work: If your IT job can be done remotely, this could eliminate the commute and give you more flexibility in your daily schedule, perhaps even allowing you to live somewhere more rural sooner.
Mini-Retirements/Sabbaticals: Could you work intensely for a period, save a significant amount, and then take an extended break to focus solely on your farm vision or travel?
Alternative Income Streams (Bridging the Gap):
Passive Income: Explore ways to generate income that doesn't require direct time-for-money exchange. This could be investments, rental properties (if you have the capital), or even online ventures (blogs, digital products) related to your gardening/farming interests.
"Unconventional" Jobs: Are there jobs that offer more flexibility or are more directly related to your interests, even if they don't pay as much as IT initially? Think landscaping, nursery work, farmhand positions, or even something seasonal that allows for long breaks.
Embracing the "Why":
Reframe Your Current Job: While you hate it, try to view your current IT job as a temporary tool to achieve your ultimate goal. Every difficult day is a step closer to the farm. This mental shift, even if slight, can sometimes make the present more tolerable.
Focus on the End Goal: Keep pictures, plans, and ideas for your farm visible. Remind yourself daily why you're enduring the current situation.
Community: Connect with others who share similar desires. Online forums, local gardening clubs, or homesteading communities can provide support, ideas, and a sense of not being alone in your feelings.
Your desire to connect with something tangible and meaningful, away from the perceived artificiality of corporate structures, is a powerful drive. It's not about being lazy; it's about seeking a different kind of fulfillment and aligning your daily efforts with your core values. Your dream of a small farm with your family sounds incredibly fulfilling. The challenge is figuring out the most sustainable and realistic path to get there.
You mentioned wanting to smoke weed and garden all day. It might be helpful to visualize what that ideal day looks like. What are you growing? What kind of animals do you have? Who are you with? What does it feel like?