Background checks
I recently experienced a discrepancy with my background results which the employer asked me to provide proof of employment at company A from Feb 2021 to November 2021 and had until March 6 to provide the documents or my offer will be rescinded. this was stated in my pre adverse notice. unfortunately, I only worked at the company from December 2021 to present. so I am unable to provide documents requested. on my background I stated I worked at company A from December 2019 which was an error and the background showed I worked there since December 2021. I provided an explanation and proof of employment on the corrected dates. Since I was unable to provide the asked dates, does that mean my offer will be rescinded. Also, the employment was real and the title. there was no employment fabrication or fake degrees.
Jobadvisor
Gemini said
This is a stressful spot to be in, but let's take a breath. Pre-adverse action notices can feel like a "final verdict," but they are actually a legal requirement designed to give you a chance to do exactly what you just did: correct the record.
Since your dates were off but the employer and role are real, here is a breakdown of how this usually plays out and what your standing looks like.
The Reality of "Rescinding"
Most employers use the phrase "offer will be rescinded" in these notices as standard legal boilerplate. It doesn’t necessarily mean they want to pull the offer; it means they must if the discrepancy remains unexplained or points to intentional fraud.
Here is why you still have a strong chance:
Honest Clerical Errors vs. Fraud: Background checkers are looking for "ghost companies" or "inflated titles." You actually work at Company A. Moving the start date is a common human error (especially if you were thinking of a different year or a previous job).
The "Reverse" Discrepancy: Interestingly, you told them you started in 2019, but you actually started in 2021. Usually, people lie to make their experience look longer. The fact that you have actually worked there for over four years (Dec 2021–Present) shows you have the stability they are looking for.
Transparency: By providing the corrected documents immediately, you’ve shown that you aren't trying to hide a gap with a fake job; you just messed up a calendar entry.
What Happens Next?
The HR department or the Recruiting Manager will now review your explanation alongside the proof you submitted. They generally look for three things:
Intent: Did you try to deceive them? (Unlikely, since the job is real).
Impact: Does the two-year difference in the start date change your eligibility for the role? (If the job required 10 years of experience and you only have 4, that’s a problem. If it’s a standard role, it’s usually fine).
Verification: Does the proof you provided (W-2s, paystubs, or an offer letter) match your new explanation?
Your Move: The Follow-Up
Since your deadline is March 6, you should not wait in silence. If you haven't already, send a concise, professional note to your primary recruiter (not just the background check portal).
"Hi [Name], I've submitted the corrected documentation to the portal. To clarify, the 2019 date on my initial form was a clerical error on my part. I have been with [Company A] since December 2021 and have provided [Paystubs/W-2s] to verify this. I apologize for the confusion and remain very excited about joining the team."
The Bottom Line: Employers hate restarting the hiring process. If you are a great fit and your actual employment is verifiable, most companies will mark this as "Resolved" and move forward.
At 32 it feels like my life is pretty much over.
32 years old, make 40k a year at a dead end warehouse job. Worthless degree, bad credit due to a repo.
Can’t find a job that my degree was for. If I wanted to learn a trade it’s saturated because everyone wants experience. There’s basically no opportunities out here.
Then in terms of dating I haven’t been in a relationship in over 8 years. So I don’t know I’m struggling with the thoughts of ending it. I don’t really see a future here anymore.
Jobadvisor
I hear you, and I want to be very direct with you: what you’re feeling is a heavy, suffocating weight, but it is not a death sentence. At 32, you are essentially at the halftime show of your working life, and the second half hasn’t even started yet.
The "dead end" feeling usually comes from looking at everything—the job, the debt, the dating life—as one giant, unsolvable knot. We need to untie those strings one by one.
1. The "Saturated" Trade Myth
I understand why it feels saturated, but there is a nuance here: entry-level is crowded, but specialization is empty. * The Pivot: If you’re already in a warehouse, you have "industrial proximity." Instead of a general trade, look into niche certifications like Precision Logistics, PLC Programming (Automation), or Non-Destructive Testing (NDT). These often take months, not years, and move you from manual labor to technical oversight.
The Degree: It’s not worthless; it’s a check-mark. Most high-level corporate roles don't care what the degree is in; they just care that you finished it. It’s a "ticket to ride" for management tracks within logistics companies.
2. The Credit and the Repo
A repo feels like a scarlet letter, but credit is math, not morality.
The Reality: In 7 years, that repo vanishes. In 2 years of consistent, small payments on a secured card, your score will look entirely different. You aren't "bad with money" forever; you're currently in a recovery phase.
3. Dating and the 8-Year Gap
When you’re unhappy with your 9-to-5 and your bank account, your confidence takes a hit, which makes dating feel impossible.
The Adjustment: Stop looking at the 8-year gap as a "void." Look at it as a period of hibernation. The version of you that re-enters the dating world after you find a path you actually enjoy will be a completely different person than the one writing this today.
A Change in Perspective
The "end of the road" feeling is usually just a sign that the current version of your life has reached its limit. That’s okay. That version should end so a better one can start.
Important: If you’re feeling like you can’t go on, please reach out to someone who can sit with you in this. You can call or text 988 in the US and Canada, or 111 in the UK. These are people who can help you navigate the immediate fog so we can work on the long-term plan.
Am i just avoiding real challenge, but if so, how you build around it?
i have i abit weird story of mine. My whole live i was avoiding real world, usually i was living just in the space of anime, video games and so on. I also liked to perform on scene, like reciprocal competitions and theater performances.
School never was easy for me, i always felt a bit behind due to my ADHD, but i pushed through, but was close to dropping it out in 11th grade. Then got to the uni, passed first semester and left, i feel belittled, real world arrived where i wasn't the best and it was needed to take risks, put in effort and do real job. I just quit and started to sell close, creating events, perfomacing as DJ, and not following healthy lifestyle or any norms.
Years passed, i just feel i have no power, i am 22yo without higher education, working as waiter, without any value for the real world, without any talents besides perfomance to get paid 30$. So... What to do i asked myself? I started healty lifestyle, quit old friends, attent to evening school, went to first real job in office as a sales.
It went good, i studied math a lot meanwhile to get a better stable engineering job in the future, got a lot of connections at job, got respect from professors, started enjoying my life. Continued to live life, travel and study. One day i decided to go for SWE job, and thats where things started to be falling appart. I did it in 4th out of 5 years before graduation in EE (and get into shitty company free trainee program while quiting stable income management job). I stopped paying attention to uni subjects, which gave me much more happines compare to shallow web-dev, since i study for electrical engineering. Now i have a choice, return back to managment job where i was good, and just to continue study for sake of it, with even no purpose to get engineering job, or just forget about dream of stable engineering career for working as a basic SWE.
I am dreaming of studying electronics, PCB design, and staff, that's basically what i had to do for my degree on the first place, meanwhile i am not willing to work in manufacturing.
Jobadvisor
It sounds like you’re experiencing a classic "identity collision." You’ve spent years moving from a world of escapism to one of disciplined achievement, and now that you’re finally close to the finish line, the fear of being "average" or "failing" in your chosen field is making the exit ramp look very tempting.
To answer your first question: Yes, you might be avoiding the challenge. But it’s not because you’re lazy; it’s because you’ve tied your self-worth to being "the best" or "the performer." In management or sales, you have natural talent and immediate feedback. In engineering, you have to be a "junior" again, which feels like a step back.
Here is how to break down your current crossroads:
1. The Reality Check: Management vs. Engineering
You are comparing a job where you are already competent (Management) to a job where you are currently struggling (SWE/EE).
| Feature | Management/Sales | Electrical Engineering (EE) |
| Effort to Reward | High reward, lower mental strain. | High effort, delayed reward. |
| Identity | The "Performer/Leader." | The "Problem Solver/Student." |
| Long-term Value | Broadly applicable. | Highly specialized and stable. |
| Passion Level | High (Social/Dynamic). | High (Intellectual/Fulfilling). |
2. The "Shallow Web-Dev" Trap
You mentioned web development feels shallow compared to your EE studies. Listen to that feeling. Many people pivot to Software Engineering (SWE) because it’s the "default" tech path, but for someone with ADHD who loves tangible results and performance, staring at CSS all day can feel like soul-crushing busywork.
If your dream is PCB design and electronics, forcing yourself into a "shitty trainee program" for web dev is a recipe for burnout. You aren't avoiding a challenge; you're tackling the wrong challenge.
3. How to Build Around Your ADHD and Strengths
Since you have a background in performance and sales, you don't have to be a "lonely engineer" in a basement. You can bridge the gap.
Don't quit the degree: You are in year 4 of 5. In the "real world," an EE degree is a massive signal of persistence. Dropping out now would likely trigger that old cycle of feeling "belittled" by the world.
Target "Field Application Engineering" (FAE): This is the perfect middle ground. It requires the technical knowledge of an EE but uses your sales and performance skills to help clients implement products. It pays very well and keeps you out of a manufacturing plant.
Embrace the "Boring" Middle: ADHD brains love the "New" and the "Final Performance," but we hate the "Middle Part." You are currently in the Middle Part of your degree. It’s supposed to be hard.
The Strategy Moving Forward
Finish the EE Degree: Even if you do it slowly. It is your "armor" in the professional world.
Drop the Web-Dev: If it makes you miserable and distracts from your true interest (Electronics/PCB), stop doing it. It’s a distraction, not a career path for you.
Return to Management (Part-Time/Strategic): If you need the money and the ego boost, take the management job back, but set a hard boundary. It is a means to an end to fund your final year of EE.
Shift to Hardware Internships: Instead of web-dev, look for roles in hardware testing, PCB layout, or electronics assembly. It will feel more "real" to you.
Perspective Reframing: You aren't a 22-year-old "waiter." You are a 22-year-old Electrical Engineering student with a background in sales and performance. That is a powerhouse combination if you don't let the "fear of being a beginner" stop you.