I’ve worked as a Chief People Officer for over a decade, and in that time, I’ve had to lay off hundreds of employees. I’ve seen layoffs handled gracefully, and I’ve seen them go very badly. One thing that’s always consistent is the emotional impact. Even if a company offers generous severance or covers COBRA, many people still feel blindsided. It’s common to think, “I’ve dedicated so much to this place—how can they just let me go?” That feeling is real and valid.
But it’s important not to let that emotion drive your behavior in the moment. I’ve had people yell directly in my face during a layoff conversation. When that happens, my ability to be flexible decreases. From the company’s perspective, you go from being someone we want to treat supportively to someone who could be a liability. Ultimately, my job is to get you through the process quickly and cleanly.
Don’t Bad-Mouth the Company
One of the biggest mistakes you can make after being laid off is publicly attacking the company. Most severance agreements include a non-disparagement clause. Violating it—even through a social media post—can jeopardize your severance pay, stock vesting, or even your continued health benefits.
The same applies to mishandling company information. Forwarding confidential files to your personal email on your last day can create serious legal issues.
Companies generally understand that emotions run high. But if your behavior presents a legal or reputational risk, they may be forced to act.
You Can Negotiate
Don’t sign anything on the spot. A simple, professional response is:
“Thank you. I’d like to review these documents and get back to you.”
You always have room to negotiate—especially regarding things like COBRA coverage, your end date, or outplacement support. Severance formulas are usually consistent across roles, so additional cash is often unlikely, but asking costs nothing.
Request Your Employee File
In many states, you have the legal right to access your employee file. It may contain performance reviews, commendations, or other documentation that helps you in future interviews—or protects you if legal issues arise. It’s your information; you should have it.
Use the Benefits Available to You
Many people hesitate to apply for unemployment because of pride. Let that go. If you were laid off—not fired for serious misconduct—your employer likely won’t contest your claim.
Take Care of Yourself, Then Move Forward
It’s normal to feel embarrassed or defeated after a layoff, but it happens to almost everyone at some point. Give yourself a moment to rest—maybe even take a short break—but don’t isolate. Lean on your network. Start thinking about what’s next.
You’re not alone, and this moment doesn’t define you. When you’re ready, step forward confidently. Your career isn’t over—it’s just entering its next chapter.