1/ 𝐄𝐦𝐛𝐫𝐚𝐜𝐞 𝐬𝐞𝐥𝐞𝐜𝐭𝐢𝐯𝐞 𝐚𝐩𝐩𝐫𝐨𝐯𝐚𝐥
Don't try to please everyone.
Have strong opinions.
Be willing to be the "bad guy" if it means staying true to yourself.
When you're not desperate for approval, people respect you more.
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2/ 𝐀𝐬𝐤 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐡𝐚𝐫𝐝 𝐪𝐮𝐞𝐬𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐬
Skip the weather talk.
Ask: "What's changed your mind recently?"
Or: "What problem are you working on?"
Hard questions create conversations people think about for weeks.
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3/ 𝐌𝐚𝐬𝐭𝐞𝐫 𝐬𝐭𝐫𝐚𝐭𝐞𝐠𝐢𝐜 𝐯𝐮𝐥𝐧𝐞𝐫𝐚𝐛𝐢𝐥𝐢𝐭𝐲
Don't overshare problems.
Share growth stories instead.
Admit mistakes without making excuses.
Be human, not perfect.
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4/ 𝐂𝐨𝐧𝐭𝐫𝐨𝐥 𝐫𝐨𝐨𝐦 𝐞𝐧𝐞𝐫𝐠𝐲
Enter slowly and deliberately.
Speak 20% slower than feels natural.
Pause before answering.
When you're not reactive, people assume you're in control.
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5/ 𝐋𝐢𝐬𝐭𝐞𝐧 𝐥𝐢𝐤𝐞 𝐥𝐢𝐯𝐞𝐬 𝐝𝐞𝐩𝐞𝐧𝐝 𝐨𝐧 𝐢𝐭
Don't wait for your turn to speak.
Listen like you're solving a mystery.
Ask follow-up questions.
Remember details from months ago.
When someone feels truly heard, they become addicted to your presence.
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6/ 𝐌𝐚𝐤𝐞 𝐨𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐫𝐬 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐡𝐞𝐫𝐨
Don't tell stories where you're amazing.
Tell stories where someone else saved the day.
Give credit publicly.
Celebrate others' wins.
When you make people feel important, they want you around.
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7/ 𝐍𝐞𝐯𝐞𝐫 𝐞𝐱𝐩𝐥𝐚𝐢𝐧 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐩𝐨𝐰𝐞𝐫
Don't justify decisions.
Don't over-explain success.
Let results speak.
Get comfortable with silence.
The more you explain yourself, the less powerful you appear.
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True magnetism isn't about being
the smartest person in the room.
It's about making everyone else feel like they are.
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