What Our Sitting Gestures Convey
There are several common ways people sit, and each can convey a different message.
Crossing legs at the ankles: This gesture can act as an unconscious defensive mechanism, creating a psychological "wall" that signals insecurity or discomfort. It's often used to shield oneself from others. However, in another context, it can also project a sense of control and authority.
Crossing legs at the knees: This posture can indicate an unwillingness to open up emotionally, with the body creating a shield to protect personal feelings.
Bent leg with gentle swinging: If the bent leg swings gently from side to side, it can signal comfort and a naturally reserved personality. However, if the person is rigid and still, this same posture may indicate insecurity or nervousness, as they try to project a false sense of control.
Crossed legs while concentrating: When someone crosses their legs while focusing intently on something, it often means they are relaxed and engaged. This posture allows them to be comfortable so they can concentrate more fully.
The Influence of Gender on Posture
Historically, gender roles have influenced sitting postures. For example, you might notice that most men often sit with their legs apart, a stance known as "manspreading." This behavior is often linked to a display of dominance and control, as they take up more space.
Conversely, women have been historically more likely to sit with their legs crossed at the knees or ankles. This posture has long been associated with modesty and consideration for others, as it takes up less space and avoids causing discomfort to those nearby.
While these patterns have been observed, it's important to remember they are not hard and fast rules. A person's sitting posture is more often shaped by their feelings and emotions in a specific moment, independent of their gender.