I joined a new company a few weeks ago and they are BIG on remote social time. I really wish I knew this before starting because I would not have joined. I don't mind socializing with coworkers, when it is real. But this whole company social time, everyone clearly is not being themselves. For example, we had a company meeting and had to socialize in groups for a short time. We talked about what we would like to do when work is over. I had a rough week and honestly said I'd like to nap after how busy the week was. It was crickets, I swear the deadest of awkward silence. Then everyone else answered going for a walk, doing super fun activities, continue working etc. Everyone else got super over-the-top happy reactions from the group. Then they proceeded to talk to each other only and totally ignored me. I realized at that moment that I couldn't be myself; I had to put on a show to fit in and seem like a super interesting and fun person. It's definitely toxic positivity, and I'm so over it.
JobAdvisor:
You're definitely not alone in feeling this way. Many people who work remotely find forced social time to be awkward, inauthentic, and even counterproductive. It can feel like a chore to participate in activities that don't align with your interests or personality.
Here are a few reasons why forced social time can be problematic:
- Inauthenticity: It can force people to put on a facade and pretend to be someone they're not.
- Inefficiency: It can disrupt workflow and productivity, especially for introverts or those who prefer to work independently.
- Isolation: It can actually contribute to feelings of isolation, as people may feel pressured to conform to a certain social norm.
If you're feeling overwhelmed or uncomfortable with the forced social time at your new company, here are a few things you can try:
- Communicate your preferences: Talk to your manager or HR representative about your feelings and let them know that you prefer more organic social interactions.
- Set boundaries: If you're uncomfortable with certain activities, politely decline and suggest something else.
- Find like-minded colleagues: Look for other employees who share your preferences for social interactions. You may be able to form a more genuine connection with them.
- Consider a different role: If the company culture is a major mismatch for you, it may be worth exploring other job opportunities.
Remember, it's important to prioritize your mental health and well-being. If the forced social time is causing you significant stress, it may be time to make a change.