A man stands his ground after his crush tells him to wait all summer for her.
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Was I The Overprotective Boyfriend At The Party?
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My girlfriend Millie (22F) and I (25M) have been together for about 6 months now. We have known each other for a couple of years as we share many mutual friends. Before getting together, we had very different lifestyles. I mostly have had long-term relationships, not really a hook-up person even though I have had a few of them. On the other hand, Millie is a big party girl and everyone knows that. She used to hookup with lots of people, sleeping around, even having sugar daddies and stuff. She often had casual relationships and one night stands before me. This doesn't really matter to me since I don't care about people's sexual history and believe that 'virginity' or 'body count' as concepts shouldn't even exist in the 21st century. I just need my partner to be loyal, no matter whether they've been with 10 people or 10K. Millie is incredibly attractive and considering her looks and lifestyle, I never even imagined us getting together but for some reason she liked some of my hobbies and we ended up going out and clicked instantly. Surprisingly, she has been a great girlfriend and is very loyal and affectionate so far, even showing me off as her boyfriend to people.
This weekend, we were at a party where many of our friends were also there. At some point, I met a group of friends, more like acquaintances, who also kinda know Millie, and one guy asked me "So how's your ride on the town bike going?". I was confused but the others started laughing. Someone explained that he was calling my girlfriend the town bike since "everyone in the town has taken her for a ride". I called him some expletive, but he remarked that it's not like it's false, and mostly everyone in the town has slept with her or has her nudes on his phone (she sent nudes to many ex-partners). I was really offended at all this so I called him a f*cking incel and took my girlfriend and left. Later I told her why we left. She was quite hurt and heartbroken to hear this. I have received messages from many people saying that I over-reacted and shouldn't have acted that way. AITA for doing what I did?
It’s easier to drop these kinds of acquaintances when you’re young, and it will be no loss to you. We all have pasts, and I think you did the right thing by standing by and defending her when it mattered. There’s no need to apologize, and you should instead check in with your girlfriend to see how she’s feeling now. She's the only person you should be focused on comforting right now, not those jerks. Read the rest of the thread here.
I Rejected A Girl After She Told Me To Wait All Summer
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I (M) have this friend, she nice looking, out going, funny. We met in school and hit it off as friends, we hung out together or as a group, or me and my girlfriend with her and her bf a few time a week. We have never really been single at the same time, so I never really noticed her romantically, I mean I noticed she was attractive but never though of her romantically.
I ended up breaking up with my girlfriend and a few months later she broke up with her bf. Well because most of our friends are paired off at the time, we end up hanging out like four days a week.
I wasn't aware I was starting to catch feelings for this girl until someone pointed out I stopped dating and approaching other women. I really hit home when she went on a few different dates and I noticed I was jealous.
So I sat her down and had a chat, told her I have noticed recently I was becoming interested in her, I absolutely hater seeing her go on dates with other guys. And wanted to see if us dating would be as cool as our friendship so far.
First, she smiled (big happy excited eyes). Then something happened, her smile turned unsure. She explained she had though of it as well and is interested in giving it a try. But not to the end of the summer.
Confused I asked why the end of the summer. She explained she was in her hoe phase (her words) and she wanted to have a "summer of fun" before she settled down. The rest of that day was awkward I cut things short. When she asked I told her we were fine, my pride was bruised a bit and I was feeling disappointed. But not to worry we are definitely still friends.
I have to admit the second she chose potentially random hook ups and getting run through for the summer over a relationship, all romantic feelings died. I wasn't mad at her, she did nothing wrong, but the way I viewed her had changed. She was forever in the friend zone for me. I took a few days put my big boy pants on and we started hanging out again. But it was different, I only saw her as a friend and I only was interested in seeing her every now and again not all the time like before. I started dating other girls again. I had no hard feelings I genuinely enjoyed being around her only like before when we both had spouses.
Anyway, one night we were our as a group we all had a few drinks and she says. "Hey good news, summers almost over". Oblivious to what she meant till later I say " that sucks I love summer". Then I got distracted by other conversations being had. I did notice she was cold towards me the rest of the night.
October rolls around she wants to do lunch just her and I. We meet up, having a great talk, we talked about our summer. She talks about all the guys she dated over the summer. She used this to steer the conversation to "us". She wanted to let me know she was ready to settle into a relationship and wanted to go back to our earlier conversation.
I told her it's cool, I valued our friendship and think we should stay just that friends. She wanted to know what's changed, and would not let it go. So I had to be honest.
I told her that her choice to put me on the back burner for "hot girl summer" was hurtful and I feel like if she actually liked me she would have wanted to be in a relationship with me. She said she knew we would be the real thing and she needed to "get through her hoe phase" to give us an honest shot. I let her know the fact she felt we could have been something and she still chose potentially to get run through by a bunch of strangers instead of starting something real tells me she doesn't feel about me the way she thinks she does. I accept that and stayed friends with her with no hard feelings. But the second she chose to put me on the back burner I lost all romantic feelings for her. Forever because it feels like she was shopping around all summer and settled on me. And I am nobody back up plan.
She got Mad, stopped talking to me, our friends think I should apologize and give her a chance. But those feelings just aren't there.
What do you think, AITA?
I should probably add a time line, this was last summer. We have seen each other around but she avoids me if she can. The reason I wrote this now, is because a mutual friend and I were talking about last summer, how the fall went, then pointed out she is still single and asked me recently if I have/would changed my mind. I don't think they were asking for her because they said she still thinks I'm an ass.
Appreciate her honesty, but I hope she can reflect on how it was still a rather mean thing to say. She could have said anything, but instead chose to be blunt; making it very clear that you weren't a priority. Now, she's suddenly expecting you to just thaw out and is being rather childish and dramatic along the way. I'm sorry, but I think your days with her are over. Read the rest of the thread here.
My Husband's Co-Worker Can't Keep Her Hands To Herself, Or Am I Reading Too Much Into It?
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Husband (33M) and I (31F) have been married for a few years, and attended his work colleague's (37F) wedding.
She is lovely and I can see her being a diligent and caring co-worker. They're not close, but have known each other for a couple of years.
On arriving at her wedding, she throws herself on my husband, and tried to touch his hair and fix his tie - he was very taken aback and pushed her away politely. Her face (and hand) visibly DROPPED when she saw my expression (I suffer no fools). I think she had a moment of realization of how inappropriate she was, and felt bad. And look, I can't fault her, my husband is very conventionally handsome, so I'm used to the effect he has on some people.
She has just had a baby with her new husband & has been extremely vocal about not wanting to be married. Sadly, her new husband is clearly madly in love with her. And it isn't just us who noticed. Both my husband and I felt uncomfortable at the wedding, with the snide comments/jokes about how not into him she is from their close family and friends. All in all, bizarre.
I think she is clearly unhappy/discontented. And perhaps she is just a touchy/feely person. But am I being delusional that I am getting a weird vibe? I feel she is projecting a lot of her wants onto my husband, and it's just uncomfortable for me to be around it.
He would shut it down if it crosses a line, but he doesn't think anything is inappropriate. He agrees at the wedding she was weirdly over familiar, but he feels it isn't a pattern (attributes it to her heightened emotions and projecting her unhappiness too).
Recently, she's made it clear she would like us all to be friends outside of work and to be closer (double date). My husband doesn't want to offend, so he has asked me to give it a shot.
The cynic in me feels distrustful. I know if I refuse, my husband would not pursue it, but I would hate to begrudge him a friend if I'm just jumping to conclusions. Am I just jealous? Or insecure? To some extent probably. But I do I trust my husband.
I just don't care to be friends/spend time with someone who would behave and openly talk about not wanting to be with their own spouse at their own wedding!
And if I was newly married and a new mum like her, the last thing on my mind would be to pursue a new friendship with a male co-worker... odd no? Or am I being what the young people call 'delulu'?
Even if she does have some kind of narrative going on in her head regarding your husband, I wouldn’t worry too much about it. It’s just fan fiction. Keep your interactions with her to the point, for the sake of your husband's workplace peace. However, if he feels it’s worth losing a casual friend, then simply ghost her. Read the rest of the thread here.