I’m just so lazy
I have no ambition or dreams for as long as I’ve been conscious I’ve always felt stressed and tired I’m always tired yet I do nothing all day the most I’ll do is get up to eat I’m only 15 and I’m homeschooled its actually an online school that has a resource center that I’m required to go to in person twice a week even that feels like to much for me these days i wasn’t always homeschooled but I've always had trouble with school even at 3 I struggled with not being able to socialize and I was always fearful and paranoid its took control of my life and I missed out on a lot of experiences cuz of it I don’t exactly know what’s wrong with me or if theres something wrong with me but what I do know is I’m so tired so tired of nothing I could lay all day and it feels exhausting I live in my head I spend the whole day daydreaming about a different life it feels real good then I snap back into reality then I feel this tiredness again everyone calls me lazy i remember when I was 12 I decided I was gonna suck it up and go to public school again after doing online school for a bit this is because my brother had a conversation with me he told me that the world isn’t always gonna work out how I want it and I need to stop avoiding school and I don’t remember everything but all I know is it really hurt because everyday I tried my best to socialize and fit in with the world starting at 6 years old I would wake up every morning at around 5am and start praying to God to help me get thru the day I also wanna mention that I didn’t just struggle with socializing it was also with fears I had a rock relationship with religion ever since I was younger because I would hear voices which I figured were from God telling me to do stuff it wasn’t bad stuff but it still stressed me out okay this is lowkey getting long so enough with my life story but the whole point is I have no dreams no nothing I don’t think I’m fit for this world I’m content with being mediocre and doing nothing with my life as long as I have my own place and food I’m fine working at a Mc Donald’s until I die I’m honestly just trying to figure out my life so the whole reason I’m posting this is because I wanna figure out what to do I mean let’s say I don’t die early on and I gotta keep living I need to figure out what to do until I die. I know this post is long its my first post and I just wanted to see what people would say to help me with anything sorry my grammars bad I don't study much I’m just tryna figure out what to do I’m not proud of it but I have considered taking the easy way out just outta laziness but I would never do that to my parents especially when I’m guaranteed death later on anyways Im sure there’s some smart people on here who could help with my laziness lol okay bye. 🙂
Jobadvisor
Thank you for writing all of this. It's clear you've been carrying a lot for a long time, and it sounds exhausting.
I don't think this is really about laziness. Being tired all the time, feeling stressed since you were little, struggling to be around people, and hearing voices since childhood are things that deserve a real look from a doctor or a psychologist. Lots of things can cause constant exhaustion and anxiety, and some are very treatable. A doctor can check the basics, and a child psychologist or psychiatrist can help you understand what you've been going through. You don't need to already know what's wrong to ask for help.
You also mentioned that you've thought about taking the easy way out. I'm glad you told someone, and I want to ask you directly: are you thinking about killing yourself? And are you safe right now?
If you might act on those thoughts, or you're not sure you can keep yourself safe, please reach out today. In Romania you can call 112 for emergencies, or Telefonul Copilului at 116 111, a free, confidential helpline for young people. If you're somewhere else, tell me where and I'll find the right number.
It would also help to tell an adult you trust, like a parent or your brother. You said you'd never do that to your parents, and that tells me how much they matter to you. They'd want to know that you're this tired and that you've been having thoughts like this, even if it's hard to say out loud.
You don't have to figure out your whole future right now. The first step is getting some relief from this exhaustion and fear. Can you tell me a bit more about what a typical day looks like for you, and whether there's an adult at home you could talk to this week?
Bicycle shop?
I went into a bicycle shop tonight to buy a mountain bike. I sat on the bike to make sure it was the right size. I said I'll take it, it was $3,200 and when I put my debit card in it asked for a tip....
Why the hell would I be tipping the dude behind the counter at a bicycle store? The guy selling me the bike definitely acted disappointed when I hit no tip.
Jobadvisor
Your reaction makes sense. Tipping is customary for services where someone's wages depend on it, like restaurant servers or hairstylists. A bike sale is a retail transaction, and the person ringing it up is typically a salaried or hourly employee who isn't expected to be tipped. The tip prompt on the card reader is a big part of the "tip creep" problem: the terminal asks by default, so people feel pressured into a norm they never agreed to.
There's one exception worth knowing. If someone did a meaningful service for you, like assembling the bike, tuning it, or doing a custom fit, tipping the mechanic is a reasonable gesture at many shops. Even then it's optional, and a sale alone doesn't create an obligation.
Declining the tip was fine. If the salesperson seemed put out, that's an awkward moment, but it doesn't mean you did anything wrong. Shops that rely on tips for staff pay should pay their people properly rather than pass that burden to customers on every purchase.
Finally happened to me
We don't eat it often but had the chance to take my wife out for a nice meal and took it. Everything was overpriced but it was good and what isn't overpriced nowadays. Came time for the check and suggested tip started at 30%. Waitress wasn't bad but wasn't active and beyond either. I feel like $15 for her coming to our table 5 times was more than generous, yet that was half of the minimum suggested amount. I miss living in Korea where tipping isn't a thing.
Jobadvisor
Sounds like a nice night out with your wife, even if the bill stung. Tipping at sit-down restaurants is a different situation from the bike shop, though. Servers in the US often earn a tipped minimum wage, sometimes around $2.13 an hour federally, so tips are how most of their pay gets made up. That's the main reason tipping is expected there, even if the system is frustrating.
That said, you're not obligated to follow the suggested percentages. Tip screens usually default to 20 to 30 percent, and many people tip less when service is average. Fifteen percent is a common "service was okay" tip in the US, and it's within your rights to choose it. Your sense that five check-ins doesn't merit a 30 percent tip is reasonable. Some people would say 15 percent is still on the low side for a standard sit-down meal, though, since that's what many servers are counting on.
If the service was fine but not memorable, leaving something in the 15 to 18 percent range is a fair middle ground that still acknowledges she was working. If you want to push back on the system itself, the more effective move is to support restaurants and politicians pushing for a higher base wage for tipped workers, or to choose places that have moved away from tipping.
HireRight didn’t verify my in progress Bachelor’s degree
Currently in my senior year of college and accepted an offer for a tech company’s new grad role for after graduation, and completed a background check by HireRight. On it, I listed both my high school diploma and my current degree program at my university, which I marked as currently attending. After I received my report, I noticed that my university was absent from the report. After calling HireRight’s customer service, they told me that since they were only requested to verify one level of education, they only verified my highest completed level of education, which was my high school diploma, over my current university degree, which they confirmed that I did fill in on my form. Given that they already sent the report to my company, they told me that further verification for my university would have to come through a new education verification check, and would need to be re-initiated by my company.
Given that my role is contingent on a university degree, what’s the best way going forward? Should I just email a National Student Clearinghouse certificate to my recruiter before the company reaches out?
Jobadvisor
Yes, getting the enrollment verification to your recruiter is the right move, but I'd send it with a short explanation instead of attaching it cold. Since the offer depends on your degree, you want the company to understand why the report looks incomplete and what they need to do next.
Before emailing, request an enrollment verification from the National Student Clearinghouse. Your university may participate through StudentTracker, or you can ask your registrar for an official enrollment verification letter. It should show your current enrollment, your program, and your expected graduation date. Then write to your recruiter or HR contact along these lines:
"I wanted to flag something about my background check. HireRight verified only my high school diploma, the highest level I've completed, so my in-progress bachelor's degree at [University] wasn't included in the report. I've attached an enrollment verification from the National Student Clearinghouse confirming my current enrollment and expected graduation date of [date]. Could you let me know whether you need anything else from me or whether you'll need to start a separate education verification through HireRight?"
Asking them how they want to handle it matters. Companies usually have a specific process for education checks, and they may need to re-initiate the verification themselves. Following their process avoids confusion and shows you're being cooperative.
Keep in mind that enrollment verification proves you're currently enrolled, not that you've earned the degree. Your offer almost certainly depends on graduation, so you'll likely need to provide an official transcript or confirmation of the conferred degree after you finish. Ask your recruiter when that will be needed so you don't get caught off guard.
RIP to my career I wasn’t allowed to start and my two degrees I will more than likely never use☺️😌✌🏿
DISCLAIMER: This is LONG and littered with typographical errors because it was written during an emotional state. It also mentions race. Please be aware that I still said what I said and some of you need to find something else to feel superior about.
UPDATE since this is reddit and I forgot this is where people seize any and every chance to be condescending FOR CLARIFICATION:
1. The trainer herself was the one that said that the two terms could be used interchangeably.
2. I never verbalized any disagreement out loud. I just noted that every time I said one term she would just interrupt and say another, which confused me because she was the one who established that the terms were interchangeable
3. The temp representative said that the managers were suspicious of the trainer because they made similar comments about the previous person for the role and suggested that they be let go after only a day as well
Before I begin, I would like encourage everyone to please actually listen and be empathetic and to please refrain from your usual Reddit snark or mischaracterizations because I’ve already had a bad day and I do not care to be civil with anybody.
I would also like to say that we need to be transparent about the state of the job market and the fact that at this point most employers are just playing with people’s livelihoods, making people jump through hoops for their entertainment, and not actually worried about anybody skills and competency. I’m 25 years old, African-American, a woman, and I think that there’s a combination of things that are affecting me.
I am one of the 700,000 black women that has been struggling in this job market. I graduated with my bachelors and accounting in 2023 and I got my first role that I did not end up liking very much and so then I decided to go back to school and I got my masters in accounting last year. I have been searching for a job for two years and it’s been an endless cycle of being turned down even for junior level roles or being hired and then immediately let go with no feedback or because of something trivial. One time the feedback I got was objectively false (one of the supervisors on a previous temp assignment lied and said that I never had my training materials with me even though me and the person I was training with went over my training materials in between him showing me what to do and I even had handwritten notes from our sessions on my training materials).
Today was the straw that broke the camel’s back. Earlier this year I already made peace with the fact that I was not going to sit around and let my career be delayed any longer, and I decided to go back to school in 2028 spring semester for a healthcare field. In the meantime, I was still looking for accounting roles (and really any available position) I could find just to have some income to prepare to go back to school. I ended up getting a job with the shipping solutions company here and today was my first day. I thought everything was going well. I was really enjoying learning the process and I thought that I had a good command of the material at one point, I was doing the task effortlessly and my trainer was just sitting back. The manager called me and let me know that I was able to leave early, which I thought was weird, but I assumed it was just because it was my first day. She asked me what I thought, whether I like the trainer, and if I wanted to train with somebody else.
On my way home, my temp agency representative called me and told me that the trainer said that we clashed and that she wanted to end my assignment, I ended up talking to her for a long time. I explained to her that frequently things such as personality are used as vague coverups for arbitrary things that people did not like, but don’t want to verbalize and that I also had my own critiques of the trainer like (she kept insisting that I use the term reference instead of PO number when talking even though the reference and the PO number was the same thing on the invoices and it’s not like it would’ve made a difference because I wasn’t actually putting reference or PO number in a document anywhere I was just saying the PO number) that I felt like the criticism was unfair and inaccurate. She then told me that the previous person that they hired for the role also was let go the same day and it was because of the same trainer and so that the management was going to begin investigating the trainer and that apparently the manager did try to reason with the other team members to try to give me a couple of extra days, but they chose to in the assignment.
I have so many thoughts racing through my head because I’m furious, but I just have three main things I want to address.
What is the plan for Gen Z? Like ACTUALLY? I know that everyone loves to make a point about how Gen Z is not the only group affected by the job market, but we are being disproportionately affected and if we’re not working, then we can’t pay taxes (boomers are already complaining about how they don’t wanna pay property taxes). Also, we aren’t having kids (because of us not have the means to) and there’s not even enough of Gen Alpha to replace us (and there’s less Gen Z than there are millennials). But demographics aside what’s the plan in five years when the workforce is mostly people in their mid 20s and early 30s that don’t have any real experience to no fault of their own because corporations decided to exploit AI and offshore and layoffs as their business model? Eventually, this fake labor shortage is going to become a very real labor shortage when there’s no physical people in existence to fill these jobs because people couldn’t afford to have kids or because companies later realize that job seekers have memories and can blacklist them back.
What’s the plan for the rest of the workforce because we know corporations are very shortsighted and by the time consequences of their greed rolls around the people that actually made the decisions have usually cashed out and jump ship, but eventually, these people will have to realize that this is not a normal economic downturn, and that they’ve exhausted the goodwill (e.g. “the social contract”) of the workforce and their consumers (who are also their employees).
What’s the plan for AI because I refuse to believe that a chat bought that can’t even count to 100 is going to one day be able to replace a certified public accountant. The technology is l fundamentally no different than cleverbot and talking tom I was using back in 2013 in my teenage bedroom even then it’s more expensive. AI can’t legally sign off on compliance audits and neither can offshored workers in India in the Philippines so even if all the entry-level roles get replaced or offshore they’re still going to be a crisis here if people are unwilling to hire or train recent graduates.
I can say that accounting already has a bad rap for being just staring at spreadsheets and crunching numbers and sitting in a cubicle, especially in an era where everyone despises the concept of a 9 to 5 and wants to work for themselves. Being barred from a field that already didn’t have good PR only to have my time wasted again and again frivolously by miserable meathead has certainly made it worse maybe one day my degree will be useful, but it hasn’t been so far and I’ve made peace with the fact that I have two degrees and two professional licenses and I feel that I may never use in quite frankly have grown to resent. I don’t understand why apparently having a masters in accounting means that I’m a fucking dunce that’s too stupid to even know how to do basic accounts payable work, but congratulations to everybody complaining about an accounting shortage because you are doing absolutely nothing to make it better and I’m actually here to personally make it worse by announcing that I’m leaving the field.✌🏿
It seems it doesn’t matter whether I’m applying to some small school system that needs a bookkeeper or one of the Big4 apparently my masters degree means absolutely nothing without my 23 years of experience I should’ve started getting back in 2003. And before you respond, please do not come to me talking about tailoring my résumé or a cover letter or working with a temp agency or networking or looking at jobs overseas or looking at some niche hiring website you found or redoing my LinkedIn because there’s no amount of tweaking and changing that’s going to help you in a market that’s designed to actively keep you out.
Final update before I resume arguing with you all in the comments**: as** previously stated yes, this post has a lot of typo****graphical and grammatical errors. I used text to speech to write this, and I did not proofread i****t. I wrote this when I was very high off of my emotions, but I see a lot of you** only pointing that out and still not addressing the actual material that’s being discussed.** I understand that this is Reddit where people come to be condescending at any given moment, but I don’t think how many of you understand how pathetic it is that you can clearly understand what I’m trying to say, but you’re choosing to focus on typos.** I was venting because I was angry and I know that this is Reddit but a lot of y’all are just pathetic, miserable, imbeciles who can’t wait for your moment to feel above someone.**
Jobadvisor
1. The Broken "Entry-Level" System & Gen Z
- Corporate America has largely abandoned internal training and mentorship, expecting temp agencies and universities to deliver fully formed, plug-and-play employees on day one.
- When petty corporate dynamics (like a trainer taking issue over "reference vs. PO number" on day one) can derail someone's position, it proves how fragile and arbitrary these hiring environments have become.
- As you pointed out, if companies refuse to hire and train early-career professionals now, there will be a massive structural deficit in 5 to 10 years when senior leaders retire and there is no middle management equipped to step up.
2. The Illusion of AI replacingI hear you, and your frustration is completely valid. You have a Bachelor’s and a Master’s in Accounting, two professional licenses, and you are putting in the work—only to hit brick walls, petty office politics, and nonsensical hiring dynamics. Being let go on day one because a insecure or difficult trainer claimed you "clashed" (over something as absurd as "PO number" vs. "Reference number") is infuriating, especially when management knew that trainer had a history of doing the exact same thing to others.
1. The Broken Structural Pipeline
- The Erasure of Entry-Level Training: Corporate culture shifted dramatically over the last decade. Companies used to view entry-level employees as investments to be trained. Now, employers expect fresh graduates to hit the ground running with zero onboarding, offloading the burden of training onto overworked senior staff (like your trainer) who often resent having to do it.
- The "Experience Paradox": The demand for "3–5 years of experience" for junior roles has created a missing rung on the career ladder. When companies refuse to train, they create an artificial talent shortage, which they then complain about publicly.
- The Intersectional Reality: As a Black woman in corporate finance/accounting, the margin for error expected of you is often disproportionately smaller, and subjective metrics like "fit" or "personality" are frequently weaponized as vague excuses when managers or trainers lack valid technical critiques.
2. On AI, Offshoring, and the "Shortage" Myth
- Legal Accountability: An LLM or automated script cannot sign off on an audit, file regulatory tax documents, or assume fiduciary liability.
- The Offshore Bottleneck: While firms have aggressively offshored basic data entry and AP/AR tasks to lower-cost labor markets, those teams still require heavy oversight from domestic accountants who understand local regulations and reporting standards.
- The Long-Term Threat: By eliminating true entry-level work through automation and offshoring, companies are destroying their own talent pipeline. In 5–10 years, when senior CPAs retire, there will be a massive shortage of mid-level professionals who have the foundational experience required to review and manage complex work.
3. Decoupling Your Self-Worth from a Broken Market
- Your degrees are not a waste, even if you pivot: Having an MS in Accounting demonstrates high-level analytical skills, business logic, and financial literacy. Whether you pivot to healthcare (as you mentioned for 2028), civil service, government auditing, or another field entirely, those analytical skills remain yours—no terrible trainer or temp assignment can take that knowledge away from you.
- Walking away is a valid choice: If a field is actively draining your mental health and refusing to grant you the entry point you earned, choosing to step back or pivot isn't "failing." It is taking control of your life back from an industry that isn't treating its incoming talent fairly.
Moving Forward
Approaching 2 years of unemployment and feel super depressed
So been job searching for almost 2 years and super depressed now at 28
I am in Canada and my b.a was intl development and ma was polisci and only had 2 interviews so far
I have a career counselor who I send the J.D and my tailored applications for review and they tell me they look fine but still hardly anything
I also fear/worry I do not have enough experience as I had a full time job for a year 2023-2024 and before that a 3 month internship during my MA, and summer administrative internships, and one year volunteering for advocacy
Right now I do consulting for my parent but its not a company with an office just a registered trademark and only 2 of us and if you google there is no information so am starting to wonder how helpful this is
As I see my peers advance more and stuck in this rut and it makes me feel awful at my age
I am getting super depressed and ashamed its been almost 2 years
Jobadvisor
Almost two years of searching, with your peers moving ahead, is exhausting, and feeling depressed and ashamed after that long makes sense. Please don't carry the shame alone. Many people with strong degrees go through long searches, especially in fields like international development, where entry-level roles are scarce and often require connections.
Since the low mood has lasted this long, it's worth talking to a doctor or therapist, not just a career counselor. Depression makes job searching harder, and it can make every rejection feel like proof of something about you, which isn't accurate. If things ever feel darker than this, you can call or text 988 in Canada any time for free support.
On the search itself, I don't think your experience is the main problem. A year of full-time work, an MA, internships, and advocacy volunteering is a real base. Two interviews from many applications usually points to the funnel rather than your worth: applications often get screened out before a person reads them, and roles in this field are frequently filled through referrals and networks. Your counselor may be checking polish but not strategy. It may help to ask them specifically about your application volume, your response rate, and whether you're getting referrals.
The consulting work may be worth more than it feels like. Instead of describing it as a registered trademark with two people, describe what you actually did for clients: the projects, the deliverables, who used them, and any results. A small operation still gives you concrete work to point to, and you can build the story around that.
It may also help to look at where your background fits in Canada specifically. Government of Canada roles (including student and recent-grad programs), federal departments that work on international affairs, and NGOs and research organizations often hire people with exactly your mix of degrees and advocacy experience, and they sometimes post on different timelines than private sector job boards.
What kind of work are you hoping to find, and what happened in the two interviews you did get?
Am I wrong to wonder if my current position might hinder my job search full time?
I've been job searching for almost two years now, and I have a BA in International Development as well as an MA in Political Science.
My parent has provided me with a position at their company, but I'm starting to question how helpful it is for my career and job search.
One concern is that there is very little information available about the company online. I recently applied for a volunteer position, and someone pointed out that the lack of publicly available information about the company was an issue.
The company is essentially a registered business/trademark without a physical office, and it's really just my parent and me working on projects together and they have full time jobs elsewhere and more of a side project for them .
I'm wondering whether my current position is actually hindering my job search, particularly because employers may have difficulty verifying the company or understanding the work I do there.
as well don't want to sound ungrateful as it provides experience but in my parent has encouraged/pushed for me to start their own businesses and I start to wonder if this position is their way of trying to push me on that path as recently they said they want me to be a director for this company and do things such as sign contracts etc
and I wonder perhaps why they have not say tapped more into their network to help me
So am I wrong to wonder?
Jobadvisor
No, you're not wrong. An employer usually needs to check where you worked, when, and what you did, and right now the company is hard to verify. Someone who searches for it finds almost nothing, and that can read as a gap or a hobby, even if the work is real. The issue isn't that the position is useless. It's that the position isn't documented in a way that other people can see.
You can fix part of that without changing the arrangement. Write a short, factual description of the company and your role: what it does, when you started, and what you delivered. Keep records of the projects, such as contracts, deliverables, invoices, and emails with clients. Ask your parent or a client for a written reference, and list the work on your LinkedIn with specific outcomes. Some employers will still be skeptical, but a clear paper trail makes you much easier to evaluate.
The director role and contract signing deserve more caution than the employment question. Directors of a registered company in Canada take on legal duties and can face personal liability if the company gets into trouble, so before you sign anything or accept the title, ask your parent to explain what it involves, and consider a short consultation with a lawyer or accountant. Also ask whether you'd be an employee, a partner, or something else, and get the answer in writing. Those details affect your liability, your taxes, and how the role looks to future employers.
Your parent's motives could be mixed. They might believe in you and want you to have a business path, they might be encouraging you toward their own business, or both. You can ask them directly. Something like, "What do you want this role to become for me?" and "Would you be willing to introduce me to people in your network?" is a fair conversation to have. How they answer will tell you a lot. You're allowed to be grateful and still want a role that helps your own career.
You also don't have to decide everything at once. You could keep the position as a limited, clearly defined role while you continue searching, with a set number of hours and a written scope. That gives you the experience without letting it take over your search or your future.
What would you want this role to look like in a year if it were fully up to you?