Yesterday I had a job interview. I'm proud that I walked out 3 minutes in.
I am a student and I was looking for some part time work to earn some money on the side. I applied for a receptionist job for a spa. I had to take a bus to get there and then walk through a shopping center, walk along a road without a sidewalk and then walk through a parking lot.
I was asked to take a seat when I arrived. I did. I had a shirt and jeans on (I asked if they had a dress code, they said jeans and t-shirt are fine). I was putting on a cardigan when the lady came to meet me. She side-eyed me immediately.
We start the conversation, I ask her if there's an easier way to get there from the bus stop. She shrugs and says "I don't know what to tell you, it's the only bus stop around". She then studies my CV that she seemingly hadn't looked at prior to this. At least it didn't look like it.
She asked me if I was happy to commute to work. I said it depends on how the shifts are allocated. If it's twice a week, I'd be happy to do it. She told me such questions aren't relevant before I even know if I have the job.
I was supposed to do the interview and maybe stay for an hour to see how things operate, so the whole experience was supposed to be two hours, interview included.
I could tell she wasn't warming up to me. I told her she doesn't seem to like me as a candidate. She asked what I meant. I said I could feel there was an issue. She said "Well, I think it's very inappropriate to start an interview with asking for a better way to get here." I asked, genuinely, "You really think so?" I told her I just thought I'd ask as you work here, know the area and Google sometimes sends me the wrong way. She said yes, it was inappropriate. I told her in that case I think it's best if we end the interview. She said ok.
I wished her a nice evening and left. I have 9 years of full time job experience prior to starting my degree. I have gotten every job I've ever wanted.
Either I'm completely wrong about what's an appropriate question, or she had already decided she didn't like me🤷🏼 I knew from her demeanor I didn't want to work for her.
It's just frustrating to prepare for an interview and be met with frustration right off the bat. Most people who've interviewed me started the interview by asking me if I got there alright. I've always been honest and it has never been a problem.
Jobadvisor
You’re not wrong.
Asking a practical question about the commute—especially after you’d already done the awkward bus + no-sidewalk + parking-lot trek—is completely normal. Most people who interview candidates open with some version of “Did you find us okay?” precisely because getting there can be a pain. Treating that question as “very inappropriate” is an overreaction on her part.
A few things stand out from what you described:
- She side-eyed you the moment she saw you (cardigan over jeans/t-shirt that she’d already said was fine).
- She hadn’t really looked at your CV.
- She shut down a reasonable logistics question and then lectured you for asking it.
- She told you questions about shift frequency “aren’t relevant” before you’d even been offered anything—while simultaneously expecting you to commit to an inconvenient commute.
That combination is a pretty clear signal that she had already decided she didn’t like you (or that the role was never going to be a good fit for someone who needs realistic working conditions). You read the temperature accurately and left. That was the right call. Staying for the full two hours under that energy would have been miserable, and you already knew you didn’t want to work for her.
Having nine years of solid experience and a history of landing the jobs you wanted is relevant context. You’re not a desperate first-time applicant who needs to swallow every red flag. You can afford to walk when the interviewer is already hostile three minutes in.
It’s still frustrating—you prepared, you made the effort to get there, and you got met with attitude instead of a normal conversation. That sucks. But the fact that you recognized it quickly and chose not to waste more of your time is a strength, not a failure.
You didn’t do anything wrong. She just wasn’t someone you should work for.
A 12th arts student and need some advices.... What skills should I learn????
As the title says I am a 12th arts student and I am worried about my career.
When I took arts stream in 11th class i wanted to become a govt teacher but not looking at the actual world I don't think I am gonna make it . Because even my own history teacher who is 40-45 years himself is even preparing for govt second grade teacher exam. He has been trying since 15 years and rest as I said.....
So now I want to change my plan a want a good career in private sector. Thankfully I have supporting parents who just want me to do something good in life . So really need some advices like what should I do now from here . I think arts is full of govt job career so maybe I should just pass my 12th exam and learn some new skills and get into something but don't what to learn? .
So plz guy's help me . What skills should I learn and also what degree should I go for after 12th ???????
(Sorry if I have not cleared my actual question but yeah it is what it is )
Jobadvisor
Step 1: High-Paying Career Options for Arts Graduates
| Career Path | What You Do | Ideal Degree After 12th | Entry-Level Skills to Focus On |
| UI/UX Design | Design how apps & websites look and feel for users. | B.Des (Design) or BA in Visual Communication | Figma, user research, wireframing, basic psychology. |
| Digital Marketing & SEO | Help businesses grow using Google ads, social media, and content strategy. | BBA or BA in Mass Communication / Journalism | Copywriting, Google Analytics, SEO, Meta Ads Manager. |
| Corporate Law | Advise companies on contracts, mergers, and legal compliance. | 5-Year Integrated BA LLB (via CLAT exam) | Legal drafting, research, analytical reasoning. |
| Human Resources (HR) | Manage hiring, employee relations, and company culture. | BBA or BA in Psychology/Sociology | Communication, Excel, talent acquisition, organizational behavior. |
Step 2: What to Learn Right Now (After 12th)
- Digital Literacy & Tools:
- Advanced Excel & Data Handling: Crucial for HR, marketing, operations, and business management.
- Design Tools: Learn basic Canva to understand visual hierarchy, then move to Figma if you enjoy digital design.
- Written Communication:
- Sharp copywriting and clear email drafting are rare and highly paid in tech, advertising, and corporate communications.
- AI & Prompting Basics:
- Learn how to use modern tools (ChatGPT, Midjourney, Claude) for research, content creation, and workflow automation.
Step 3: Game Plan for College
- Choose the Right Degree: Avoid a passive general BA if you want a direct corporate entry. Aim for BBA, BA LLB, B.Des, or a BA in Mass Comm / Economics.
If you take a standard BA, pick subjects like Economics, Psychology, or English. - Build a Portfolio: In the private sector, a strong portfolio of real work (blogs, design projects, case studies) often matters more than college marks.
- Get Internships Early: During your 1st and 2nd years of college, take up small internships or freelancing projects to gain corporate exposure.
I got promoted over a coworker who's been here much longer and now half the team barely talks to me. What do I do ?
I got promoted a few weeks ago into a team lead position. I was excited about it, but one of my coworkers had apparently been expecting to get the role. He's been with the company almost five years and I've only been here around two.
Nobody said anything directly at first, but the vibe changed almost immediately. A few people who used to talk to me all the time are suddenly very short with me, lunch invites basically stopped, and I've walked into conversations that went quiet as soon as I showed up.
The coworker who wanted the promotion is professional when we have to work together, but that's about it. Yesterday I asked him for some information on a project and he told me I should know that now that I'm the lead. That was the first time anyone said something directly enough that I knew I wasn't imagining it. I didn't choose who got promoted and I don't think I did anything wrong by accepting it. At the same time, I understand why someone who's been there much longer might be pissed.
I'm trying not to walk in and suddenly act like everyone's boss, but I'm also supposed to lead people who apparently don't think I should have the job. How do you handle this without making the situation worse?
Jobadvisor
This is a genuinely hard spot — you didn't do anything wrong, but you still have to live with the fallout. A few things that might help.
Give it time, but not unlimited time. A few weeks is not long. Some of this coolness will fade naturally as people adjust and see how you actually lead. Don't panic-react to week three.
Talk to the coworker directly, once. Not to apologize for getting the job — you have nothing to apologize for — but to name the tension plainly. Something like: "I know this wasn't the outcome you wanted, and I get why that's hard. I'd like us to be able to work together well. What do you need from me for that?" This isn't about fixing his feelings. It's about putting the elephant on the table instead of tiptoeing around it. His comment yesterday was a small test — how you respond to moments like that will matter more than any big speech.
Don't overcorrect into being overly soft or overly hard. The instinct to not "act like everyone's boss" is good, but be careful it doesn't tip into avoiding leadership altogether — that reads as guilt, and guilt invites more disrespect, not less. Lead normally. Give direction when it's needed. Hold people accountable when it's needed. Normalcy is what eventually makes the promotion feel unremarkable.
Separate the coworker from the rest of the team. He has a specific grievance. The others who've gone cold may just be taking cues from him, or from general awkwardness about a peer becoming their lead. Don't lump everyone into "the team is against me" — check in with a couple of the people you were closest with individually, casually, outside of work topics if that fits your relationship. Isolating him as the one direct sore point, rather than treating the whole team as hostile, will keep you from overreacting to ambient weirdness.
Watch for actual undermining, not just coldness. Frostiness at lunch is uncomfortable but survivable. If it turns into him withholding information you need, bad-mouthing you to others, or actively working against decisions — that's no longer just hurt feelings, and it's fair to loop in your own manager at that point.
Let your management speak for itself. You don't need to prove you deserve this. Be consistent, fair, and competent, and most people recalibrate over time even if they never say so out loud.
The comment yesterday probably stung more than you're letting on. How are you feeling about the whole thing beyond the practical side of it?
I graduated with a bachelors, was hired at Costco meant to be a bridge job but I'm contemplating on just staying? advice wanted
I F23 have a bachlors degree in supply chain and logistics and after a bad experience working in operations I quit my job and moved back home and got a job at Costco. But now I'm not so drained and irritated when I leave work and realize I really hated sitting behind a desk all day.
I have diagnosed ADHD and honestly I wouldnt say im particularly smart. It's just really hard for me to sit behind a desk without zoning out every 2 seconds but thats how I've always been. I only went to college because I had a full ride athletic scholarship so it just made sense
I'm looking for other job openings that use my degree, and they pay so much better but I dont wanna go back into operations, and the analyst/procurement jobs sound awful. Sometimes I even worry I'd get fired for low performance or just getting told I'm stupid or something
For some reason I feel like I need to prove myself by using my degree, or else like why did I just waste all my time in college? I feel like it's such an awkward topic like yeah i just graduated with a bachelor's but I'm gonna stay in retail
but I do like Costco. I also worry about money or how I'll be able to be independent and stuff if I stay here
but if I leave I might struggle with hating my job or even just getting fired for the inattention thing and stuff.
Trying to figure out if it's actually worth it to test my degree again, if something more physical/hands on or if I'm better off just staying at Costco?
Jobadvisor
A few things stand out here, and I think they're worth pulling apart separately because they're tangled together right now.
The "wasted my degree" feeling is a trap, not a fact. You went to college on a full ride for an athletic scholarship — the calculus that got you there wasn't "I need this specific degree to be complete as a person," it was "this is free, I might as well." That's a perfectly good reason to get a degree. It doesn't create a debt you now owe to a desk job. A bachelor's isn't a coupon that expires unused; it stays on your resume and can matter later even if your next five years don't involve procurement spreadsheets. Staying at Costco doesn't erase it or make it pointless.
Costco specifically is not a small thing to walk away from. It's genuinely one of the better retail employers in the US — pay, benefits, and internal promotion track record are well above the industry norm, and there are real paths from hourly into supervisor, ops manager, and beyond that involve a lot less desk-sitting than a corporate procurement role. If part of your worry is "am I settling for less," Costco specifically complicates that story, because plenty of people build stable, well-paying careers inside it.
The ADHD piece is real and worth planning around, not around. You already have data: sitting behind a desk was miserable and draining, and being on your feet moving isn't. That's useful information about how you're wired, not a character flaw or a "not smart enough" problem — attention regulation and intelligence aren't the same axis at all. A lot of people with ADHD do much better in roles with movement, variety, and physical tasks than in ones requiring sustained stillness and self-directed focus. That's a legitimate constraint to design your career around, the same way someone might factor in "I do better with a team than working solo."
The middle ground you're not weighing yet: your degree isn't only useful in analyst/procurement desk roles. Supply chain and logistics has plenty of hands-on, physical, high-movement work: warehouse/DC operations management, inventory control, logistics coordination on a floor rather than in a cubicle, distribution supervisor roles. Some of these pay close to what an analyst role would while looking a lot more like your day at Costco than like your old operations job. If you want, I can help you look for what these listings actually look like day-to-day, since job titles are often vague about how deskbound a role really is.
The real question isn't "degree vs. Costco." It's "what kind of work environment do I actually function well in, and how do I find more of that, whether it uses the degree directly or not." What was it about the old operations job — was it the desk itself, the isolation, the lack of variety, or something else?
Black mold at fast food job - higher ups are saying they aren't gonna fix it
We failed a health inspection at the fast food restaurant I work at & someone who came to check our walls after said there's black mold. He said the last restaurant who had a similar problem had to close down for 3 days to fix it. Our regional manager lied to the health inspector saying they plan on getting it fixed, but then said they aren't doing it after they left bc it's too expensive and we can't afford to be closed that long.
I'm trying not to be dramatic about it, but multiple coworkers were complaining about allergies and respiratory issues weeks before we found out about the mold. One of the teenagers told me they started having to use their inhaler more, but only at work and others have said it's weird bc they feel fine at home, but their eyes start watering bad and nose is all runny at work. It's more than 4 workers and I know they aren't just paranoid about the mold bc all the complaints happened before we knew about it.
Does anyone have advice on what to do about this? Should I just ignore and move on or report? I know a lot of people online say black mold isn't as toxic as some make it out to be, so Idk what to do.
ETA: I don't think the health inspector knows about the mold. The wall is damaged and that's what they took points off for.. someone came to look at the structural damage and put a camera up in there & that's how we found out about the mold. It's not visible to the health inspector and idk if the contractor who came to inspect the wall has to tell them about it or not. He just told my managers and others who were around heard it.
Jobadvisor
You're not being dramatic. Multiple people with documented symptoms, a contractor who confirmed mold, and management deciding to hide it from the health inspector because fixing it costs money — that's not a gray area, that's a workplace actively choosing to keep people sick to save money.
Report it, and to more than one place:
- OSHA — mold that's causing respiratory symptoms in workers is a workplace safety hazard, which is squarely OSHA's territory. You can file a complaint online or by phone, and you can request your identity be kept confidential from your employer.
- Your local/county health department — separately from OSHA. Since the health inspector who visited didn't see the mold (it was behind the wall, found by a contractor), the official inspection record is currently incomplete. You can report the mold directly to the health department that oversees restaurant inspections, and mention that management was aware and didn't disclose it. This matters for customers too, not just staff.
- Some states also have their own worker safety agencies in addition to OSHA — worth a quick search for your state.
Document before you report, if you can do it safely:
- Write down (dates, names, what happened) every case you know of — coworkers' symptoms, when they started, the inhaler use, the contractor's comment about the previous restaurant closing for mold remediation, and what the regional manager said about not fixing it. Texts or messages where any of this comes up are useful too.
- If you can get anything in writing (even a text from a coworker describing their symptoms) that helps, but don't put yourself at risk trying to record conversations covertly — check your state's laws on that first, since some require all-party consent.
On retaliation: it's illegal for your employer to fire or punish you for reporting a safety hazard to OSHA or a health agency — that's covered under whistleblower protections. It's not always enforced perfectly and companies sometimes retaliate in petty, harder-to-prove ways, so it's worth knowing that protection exists but not assuming it makes you bulletproof. Filing an anonymous or confidential complaint reduces that risk substantially.
On "black mold isn't that toxic" takes online: the toxicity debate about Stachybotrys specifically is genuinely contested in some circles, but that's a bit of a red herring here. Even non-toxic mold species commonly cause exactly what your coworkers are describing — respiratory irritation, allergy-like symptoms, worse for people with asthma (hence the inhaler use). You don't need it to be the "toxic" kind for it to be a legitimate health hazard people should not be breathing in 40 hours a week.
You don't have to be the only one who reports, either — if any coworkers are willing, a report with multiple named witnesses corroborating the same timeline carries more weight than one person's account, though a single report is still enough to trigger an investigation.
Celebrities/Atheletes/High earners are not our friends and I am tired of people claiming "they have to work too"
Zendaya got 8 MILLION for 5 minutes of screen time in "The Odyssey". Thats 1 week of filming max. Plus perhaps 2-3 months of advertising the movie. With this money she could have retired right then and there.
This "celebrities/atheletes/high earners have to work too" "their chains are just golden" is just delusional. They can work for like a few weeks or months every year with long periods of freedom. Or they can choose to retire after like 1 or 2 years. They are not the same.
Yet many people go "they just get paid more but they still have to work". Well its a BIG difference if you can do one movie a year, work for 2-3 months and have the remaining 9-10 months off. Or If you can play football for 2 years and then retire because you made so much money. Of if you made enough in 3 years as a CEO so that you can retire.
Jobadvisor
You're making a real point, but I think it conflates a few different things that are worth separating.
Where you're right: The "golden handcuffs" framing genuinely is misapplied a lot of the time. Someone earning $8 million for a supporting role, or a CEO with a $50 million exit package, has a categorically different relationship to work than someone earning $50,000. The difference isn't just magnitude — it's optionality. If a few years (or one very good payday) can fund the rest of your life, "work" stops being something you're compelled to do and becomes something you're choosing to do, which changes its nature. Equating that to the stress of someone who can't quit without losing their apartment is a real category error, and you're not wrong to push back on it.
Where it gets more complicated:
- Not all high earners have this optionality. A-list movie stars, top athletes, and CEOs with huge equity packages are a tiny slice of "high earners." Plenty of people who'd be called "high earners" — surgeons, senior engineers, mid-tier actors, most professional athletes outside the top leagues — make good money but nowhere near "retire after one good year" money, and many have shorter earning windows than people assume (average NFL career is around 3 years, for instance, and most athletes are not the ones signing $100M deals).
- The stress and precarity aren't zero, they're just a different kind. Fame brings surveillance, loss of privacy, and often genuine mental health tolls — that's a real cost even if it's not comparable to financial precarity. It's possible for something to be a much better trade than a normal job and still involve real difficulty. The two things aren't mutually exclusive, which is part of why people talk past each other on this.
- The "they worked for it" defense usually smuggles in a fairness claim your critique isn't really about. Your argument is really about the freedom that concentrated wealth buys, not about whether the labor was hard. Someone could fully agree the labor is easy and short and still argue that's fine because the market rewards scarcity and demand, not effort. That's a separate debate from the one you're making, but it's often where the "they work too" pushback is actually coming from.
So I'd say your core claim holds: extreme wealth buys a kind of freedom that "they work hard too" rhetoric obscures, and treating a few weeks of filming as equivalent in kind to a 50-hour work week most people can't escape from is a bad-faith flattening. Where it's worth being careful is not letting "some ultra-high earners have this" collapse into "all high earners have this," since that's a bigger group with a lot more variance than the Zendayas and top-tier CEOs.